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Identity and Effort
11/29/2017 @ 11:37:19 AM (EST)
If you don't try to see yourself properly, you won't ever know who you really are.
Most people think they are their identity, their story; that is, the explanation of everything that has ever happened to them in their life.
The reality is, one's real identity is truly composed of 2 factors:
• The actual situation one is faced with in their life
• How one interprets any given situation (frame of reality)
Life is not about trying hard, it is about trying properly.
Trying hard and trying properly are two very different things.
Some people believe that if you just try hard enough, you can do anything.
This is not true.
It is not about how hard you try, it is about how properly you go about trying.
Emotional tolerance (known in psychology as
) is your ability to adjust to emotions in reaction to particular situations/thinking patterns which build as a natural response to periods of emotional distress.
This can result in good or bad thought cycles.
For example, if you're always faced with things that make you sad, you may adjust yourself to feeling that sad is more normal and those thought cycles that are negative as a result of being sad feel normal.
Then before you know it, sad is your normal and you don't know why you feel like crap all the time.
Trying hard could just be doing the same exact thing over and over again, or perhaps more or less intense, however, it does not take into account how appropriate that intensity is, nor how appropriately that intensity is being channeled.
It is true that if at first you do not succeed, if you desire something, you should try again.
That is undeniable; if you do not try, you cannot succeed. However, the approach you take to trying is just as important as trying itself.
Trying to Try
Trying to try is just as important as actually trying. Everything in your life is shaped by your perspective regarding it.
How you perceive something forms what it means to you, and effectively, what it IS, to you. But changing that perception is not as simple as saying "perceive something differently".
Of course that will not work; you cannot perceive anything in life purely as you wish at any given moment, however there is a good reason for this: if you cannot perceive something in the way you truly feel that you desire it (since subjectively everything is about your feelings, a representation of your perception), you effectively do not truly know what perception it is you are seeking, and that is why you cannot achieve it.
If you truly know what you are looking for, then that implies that you also know how it is that you are going to get there.
This means that if you do not know how to get where you want, then you do not effectively know what you truly want. You're guessing and grasping at straws desperately.
Grasping Objective Reality
This is really not a simple concept to grasp; because what you "truly" want is also a feeling, you can feel that you know what you truly want more than you actually do know, and this is what causes misconceptions.
Think about a final destination as a tree, and the path to achieving it as the roots. The tree would not exist without the roots, and likewise, a final destination would not exist if there was no path to ever achieve it.
In some cases, the path is evident, however because of the difficulty involved, it is assumed to be incorrect, thus forming a misconception based on one's perceived skill level.
Perhaps one of the most important things to keep in mind is that how much you feel you want something and how much you truly want something are different things.
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